Maybe Swearing Will Help

  • Teleworking
  • Wedding Planning
  • Job Searching
  • Resume Writing
  • Home Schooling
  • House Shopping (in Wisconsin)
  • Planning a Move
  • Packing the House
  • Need Toilet Paper
  • Jason’s Retirement
  • Running Club

The list goes on………

I am not one to complain (at least for everyone to hear!) but I’ve got A LOT going on… and the coronavirus is not making it easy for me. Yes, I know, there are people dying from this and I need to be more sensitive. I am not trying to make this all about me. So please don’t use my blog to attack me with your “medical expertise” and current stats that I can easily find on CDC.gov. My blog is my opinion and it’s a way for me to vent, without posting every gripe I have every couple of hours via Facebook along with everyone else. So here I am, looking at what needs to be accomplished over the next couple of months and coming to terms with the fact that it might not get done. At least the way I hoped for.

Believe me when I say I am a planner. Seriously, I plan out everything, with plenty of time to spare. Why? Because it’s easier and less stressful that way. Well, the coronovirus was the universe’s way of saying to me “we don’t care about your plans.” The bright side is that I am forced to sit back, and take it one day at a time. Which is something I’ve been needing to do for a long time. But damnit…. I don’t wanna! Maybe, just maybe, swearing will help!

I recieved this awesome coloring book in the mail today called, you guessed it, “Maybe Swearing Will Help.” It was from my friend Roxie. I laughed when I opened it and thought, YES – this is exactly what I need to take my focus off of everything that is no longer going to work out the way I wanted it too.

So here’s my hope for you…. consider this time a gift. A gift that you didn’t want, but can’t exchange or return. Yes, we might be missing out on watching our kids play sports, or seeing them off to school. We might not be able to have birthday celebrations at our favorite eateries or meet the girls for drinks after work. We might only be able to see our friends via FaceTime, Zoom or Skype. But when all this clears, we will go on with our lives the way we intended. We’ll go back to “not having enough time” to do certain things again or we’ll gripe about gas prices and traffic. But right now…. enjoy the unknown if you can. Because nothing is going as expected and we don’t know how long this will last.

The Un-Anniversary

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On this day, 15 years ago, I said, “I Do.”  I was 20 years old, 4 months pregnant and dressed in white (the irony, I know) when I walked down the aisle of the Station Chapel aboard MCAS Cherry Point.  As I walked down the aisle on my wedding day, with my daddy by my side, all my little girl dreams of being a Disney Princess on my wedding day had become a reality.  In front of 150 of our closest friends, my soon-to-be husband and I exchanged our vows and promised to love each other until ‘death do us part.’

Today I wish my ex-husband a Happy Un-Anniversary. 

We were married for seven years.   We had great times, we had bad times, but we mostly had good times.  That is how marriages work, right?  You can’t have one without the other.  Over time we figured out that as a married couple…. we kind of sucked.  But as parents…. we were pretty awesome.  So, after the divorce was finalized in August 2011, we ended up becoming better friends than we had been throughout our entire marriage.  Why?  Because we were both focused on making one little boy happy.  We weren’t focused on trying to control each other.  We weren’t tired anymore from trying to salvage what was left of our relationship.  We were finally happy.  Who’da thunk it? 

Well, our friendship only lasted a few years after our divorce.  But that’s ok.  He’s remarried now and I’m enjoying living the single mom life with my amazing 14-year-old son, crazy flock of backyard chickens, and two adorable golden retrievers.    

While my marriage didn’t last, my divorce did help shape me into the person you see today; a strong, capable, smart, and educated woman.      

So, Happy Un-Anniversary to Me!

The B Word

It was only a matter of time.  I knew this day would come.  And I’ve accepted it.   I have become the B word.  

I.  Am.  A.  Blogger. 

See, I just finished my degree in Management/Marketing.  For nearly two years my studies included social media marketing, advertising and promotions, and web content.  Blogging is a relevant, online tool.  Don’t believe me?  

The number of active bloggers in the U.S. is estimated at around 31.2 million (statista.com, 2019).

Yet, I’ve never had the itch to blog.  I tend to be late to current trends and fads.  So I am not at all surprised that it took me until now to muster up the courage to give blogging a go.  But it didn’t happen overnight.  For the past couple of weeks I have been researching blogging.  Why do people blog?  Where do I start?  Do I have time to devote to this?  And finally, why would anyone be interested in reading MY blog?  

So here I am.  Taking a chance.  

My blog, This Unexpected Life, will not provide you with recipes for amazing meals, crafty ideas or DIYs, and I definitely wont try to pretend I can give parenting advice (I still toot my horn every year I keep my kid alive).  So if you are looking for expert advice in any of those areas… you’ve come to the wrong blog.  But if you are looking for the occasional laugh – stick around.  Follow me.  And enjoy the show.